It happens when someone's bold, or laughing in front of me when I think they're laughing at me. Or if I think they're in love with themselves. And then afterwards, when I'm thinking about it later... I realize how wrong I am. Because that boldness? That's confidence. And the laughing? They're actually incredibly funny, so much that you have to keep yourself from laughing at everything that comes out of their mouths. And being in love with yourself... well, they have amazing self-esteem, so much they're willing to wear their hearts on their sleeves, and say what needs to be said. When I think about all of this, I start to think about how wrong I can be about someone. What do you know? Someone I first meet that I think is annoying... actually becomes one of my best friends :) My personality is somewhat like Remy from This Lullaby in a way... without the boldness (ha, ha). So far, I've misjudged (counts on fingers) at least nine people that I can think of right now. And here I am, always talking about judging people being a bad thing, when I do it all the time (hides face in shame). Have you ever misjudged someone as a bad person, when it turns out that they're really good?
I completely know what you're talking about.
ReplyDeleteI suppose that the first instance that comes to mind was when a new girl moved to our school. At first, I thought she was abit 'aloof' but looking back, I realize she was just shy. Now, she's one of my best friends. :))
I LOVE that picture!
ReplyDeleteDon't feel to bad. Honestly, it's human nature to judge. Even the best of us have done it at least once. But hey, at least they broke through your "wall" and you gave them a chance!
I never really misjudge someone like that. If I do judge them, and seem to not like them, I usually end up not liking them even after I've given them a chance and we've hung out. Not to sound conceited, but I'm usually right when judging those types of things.
I am more of the person that GETS judged wrong. People think I'm this stuck-up, preppy blonde. Yes, I'm smart. But geez do I hate preps. I'm just nerdy and really random. I'm always doing crazy shit and my friends are just like "You're so fucking retarded" while they're laughing their asses off at me. I make people laugh a lot. :]
-Abby..♥
awwww i agree. first impressions never always last..
ReplyDeletethis happens so many times, doesn't it? this one girl that i'm best friends with now is really nice, but when i first met her, i thought she was stuck-up and prissy. another one of my friends is funny and i love being with her, but when i first met her, i thought she was weird. i can list many more, but i don't want to keep going on because my laptop battery is dying. :)
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I think I constantly judge people. I try, though, to like everybody unless I have a sincere reason not to, and it works.
ReplyDeleteI really like the idea you commented on my blog for Sunday Pancakes. The only thing is that I don't know how they'd all stay friends if everything got mixed up like that. I don't know how they'd stay friends with what's happening now, though. I think your idea is the best one, I might use it :)
I think this happens with a lot of people. The way our minds work, we see the opposite of what a person really is, because we're blinded by something else. I know I've done this plenty of times before, and I still do it, even I don't actually see it at the time.
ReplyDeleteI hope you are doing well!